As I’m sure many of you know, on Monday, two people were killed in a domestic violence dispute on the University of Washington campus. Jonathan Rowan, 41, walked into Gould Hall, climbed the stairs to the 4th floor, and shot his ex-girlfriend, Rebecca Griego, 26, just before 9:30 AM.
From the media accounts, she had done everything right. After he threw her to the floor in a drunken dispute, she moved out. Afraid he would find her and harm her, she moved a few times. She changed her phone number and stopped accepting his phone calls. She told her coworkers and friends to be on the lookout. She took out a restraining order, and had the papers on her desk, in case he showed up at her workplace.
The police would have served Rowan the restraining order themselves, but they couldn’t find him. This begs the question — were they even looking?
After the murder-suicide on Monday, UW Assistant Police Chief Ray Wittmier acknowledged that the UW police receive numerous reports of death threats on campus. He called these threats “not uncommon.”
But today, the Seattle P-I reports that Griego’s coworkers did not follow university procedures in place to handle threats to employees. The University Police and the College of Architecture should have reported these threats to a high-level safety team back when they occurred — in March. The safety team could have potentially moved her office, changed her phone number, and tasked extra police patrols to her building. It’s unclear whether these measures would have protected her, but they may have helped. Griego’s office location and phone number were on the UW directory — which by the way, can be searched by anyone outside the university.
Griego’s coworkers may not have known about this. I’m a TA at the University of Washington — I sure didn’t know that we have established procedures in place should coworkers receive serious threats to their safety. I don’t even know to whom I’m supposed to report any threats — except to dial 911.
Clearly, we need to take better steps to protect people like Rebecca Griego from domestic violence. This isn’t a problem we’re ever going to solve, but we can start — with education. We need to break the silence about domestic violence. Domestic violence education should be a part of mandatory sex ed in elementary and middle schools. Boys and girls need to learn that it is never okay to hit, manipulate, or abuse your partner.
There need to be coordinated efforts on all college campuses about domestic violence. Young men and women who are in abusive situations need someplace to go where they can get help getting out. This should ideally be part of every college student’s freshman orientation.
If you are reading this, and you or someone you know is experiencing domestic violence, please call the National Domestic Violence Hotline at 1-800-799-7233. If you are a teen or a parent of a teen who is in a domestic violence situation, please call the National Teen Dating Abuse Helpline at 1-866-331-9474.